Essential Facts Regarding Raising Your Children

By Marilyn Munro


Children are the most affected when parents argue, separate or even go through a divorce. However, as a parent you can always avoid them getting affected to the affairs of your dysfunctional marriage. Good parenting should help foster self-control, self-reliance, empathy, honesty and cheerfulness

As they say charity begins at home and parents are the best teachers in the lives of their kids. Being the first teachers they care deeply about them. Influencing your kid is possible only if you spend quality time with them by playing and engaging in their activities. However, in modern day life parents do not have enough space and time to discuss or even think about them. This leads to accumulated stress to the kids due to lack of a grown up to talk to.

It does not mean that parents have the answers to everything but the fact that they are there they help their kids grow. There influence can be emotional, physical, cognitive or social. Giving play attention, encouraging and planning for it creates a strong bond between the parent and the kids.

Whether your partner has withdrawn, is angry, abusive, rude, sarcastic there is always less or no communication at all. You find that in such situations parents will tend to use their kids to speak on their behalf. Such parents forget that the kids are looking up to them.

On the other hand you might have been brought up in a liberal and pampering kind of way and you may want to be strict with your kids. The predicament of seeking advice from your parents or other parents is the fact that they will always consider their parenting methods as perfect. This is because every parent thinks that he or she is perfect.

As a parent you can achieve this by engaging in their affairs such as participating in their play or games. Out of this you will learn the personality of your kid and many other traits.According to experts role-playing with your kids is always a great idea.

Some parents even go as far as referring their kids to be like the other parent who has made them unhappy. Kids may not understand why you as a parent may be acting in that manner hence; they will think that they have done something to offend you. The only solution to this is to treat your kids the way they are supposed to despite your condition with your spouse.

In certain decision-making situations, the best interests of the child should not only be a primary but rather the paramount consideration. In other words, the best interests of the child should trump other considerations such as immigration control or fiscal constraints. One such instance is the decision to separate a child from his or her parents.

In some countries, like Ireland, respect for family unity is also a fundamental provision in the Constitution. Despite these obligations, many states employ draconian measures to enforce immigration control, resulting in the effective separation of families. In Ireland, this occurs at the deportation stage when a parent is detained and the children are placed in state care.

Macro system factors include the government policies that affect employment opportunities and establish programs like Head Start geared to low income families. Chronic system factors also come into play with respect to changes over time in the kind and number of jobs that are available. For example, in the United States, the number of well-paying manufacturing jobs has been shrinking for many years, ravaging whole communities with skyrocketing unemployment. The shrinking tax base in those communities results in fewer resources to support schools, playgrounds, and other community resources important for developing children.

In most cultures, girls are also somewhat more attuned than boys to the need to inhibit emotional displays that might hurt others feelings. This is especially true for girls from cultures such as India, in which females are expected to be deferential and to express only socially appropriate emotions . These findings obviously are consistent with the gender stereotypes that girls are more likely both to try to protect others feelings and to be more emotional than boys. Experts have abolished the concept of perfect parenting citing that temperament, behavior and activities of a kid determines the style of parenting imposed. They have classified three types of parenting styles. These parenting styles will help you improve your methods of parenting.

The fact that citizen children can be deprived of their parents care in their country of birth because parents are deported as a direct consequence of state immigration policies is a serious rights violation. Some families choose to take their kids with them, removing them from the only home they have ever known and where they hold citizenship. This becomes a form of constructive deportation. Undocumented families in the United States, face similar difficult choices and practices.

Children ultimately adjust depends not only on their temperament but also on how well their temperament fits with the particular environment they are in what is often called goodness of fit. Kids with difficult temperaments have better adjustment if they receive parenting that is supportive and consistent rather than punitive, rejecting, or inconsistent. In support of their argument, research indicates that children who are impulsive or low in self regulation seem to have more problems and are less sympathetic to others if exposed to hostile, intrusive, or negative parenting rather than to supportive parenting.

In instances where there has been no neglect or abuse where the only basis for the child's removal is abject poverty and homelessness. Undocumented parents are unable to rely on social welfare benefits. In some cases, because of this economic hardship, their children are viewed as social orphans, separated from the parents, and placed into care.

The only way you can keep your kids engaged in their play is by preparing for a number of activities to engage to. These activities need to be more fun than the latest technologies. More so, you can make it a norm or tradition of your family to engage to a certain activity at a particular time. For Instance you can choose to play a board game, watch a movie and later ask questions about it or form a book club where you read a book together. Introducing reading to your children at a tender age helps them grow loving reading hence helping them in school.

In case of a divorce it is difficult to trust an abusive spouse with your kids. In such occasions it is important to involve the law and prove the abuse to avoid the spouse from getting custody of the kids. Usually this is never an easy task and may require a professional to pull through. All in the most important thing in a dysfunctional relationship or marriage is to always protect your children.




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